I remember going through my aunt’s underwear drawer and try to find a bra that would fit my back and fill it in with socks to make it look like I have boobs when I was like 5ish… When I was in secondary school, I would look at my friends and see their bodies starting to develop and I would get so jealous because they got to wear bras and I didn’t. Also I felt like I had to cover up my nipples because my friends would always point them out and tell me that it was wrong. I was around 14 when I started to wear bras and after a few months I got lazy to wear it every morning and be cold so I started to sleep with a bra on (not the most comfortable thing tbh) This went on for quite a while, then I decided that I needed a black one so I went out to get the one with extreme push up effect. I had NOTHING to fill it with but when I wore tight tshirts so that my boobs would look fucking amazing -I’m cringing right now too- I used to feel very confident when I was wearing it because my boobs looked bigger and I was looking ‘girly’. Looking back, I can’t believe I wore bras because I thought big boobs made a woman, a woman. After like two months, I didn’t feel as good, I felt like I was a fraud, I saw boys who had bigger boobs than I did, why weren’t they wearing bras to cover their nipples? Why was it okay for them to wear tight clothes even though we could see their nipples whereas we had to wear bras to cover them? I was so annoyed of these thoughts, I decided that I wasn’t going to wear bras anymore.
The first few weeks were very uncomfortable, I felt like everyone was staring at me at school, I was constantly asking my girl friends if my boobs looked weird, also, PE classes were like hell (wear sports bras if you do sports, it’s nice to not to feel pain 🙂 🙂 ). When I got used to it though, I felt like the most confident person ever, people around me were interested in ditching the bra too and that made me so happy.
Push up bras are popular in our society because according to the media, bodies with big boobs, small waists and hips are the ones that are ”acceptable”. When we look back, the ”acceptable” had differed throughout the years and now it’s the time for us to decide the way we want to look and embrace our bodies.
Ditch the bra.