Long distance relationships are hard. Although, once you adjust to it, you get the best things out of a relationship. You plan your trips and the countdown starts and finally the time comes! We plan, God laughs.
These are hard times. None of us anticipated things could come this far. I remember thinking “there’s no way that the virus is going to make it’s way to Italy”, two days later, we heard that the cases of Covid-19 were rapidly increasing in Italy. Around those days, our neighbor Kirsten and I had gotten hair cuts and regretted it. It was two days before the second term started and I was crying my eyes out and I told Ladi that I’m not going to school until my hair grows back… Little did I know…
Because the cases were increasing, my school postponed the beginning of the new semester for a week. I thought it was a good idea to go back to Istanbul for a week to get rid of my wisdom teeth that had been bothering me. When I was at the airport, I heard that my flight back got cancelled. I was like “great! I’ll return via Amsterdam and see my beloved Ladi”.
A week became a month, it became two months and it’s going on three. We’ve heard so many horrible things. I’ve had so many problems and the thing that bothers me the most is that I can’t see my significant other because my insecurities are getting the better of me.
I wanted to share some things that I think can be useful for some people. I know there are a lot of people in my situation and it comforts me to know that.
- These are all temporary. You don’t get to see each other but you will. It will probably be the most exciting reunion ever.
- It’s normal to feel like you’re not a couple. These are not normal times. We don’t even feel like humans sometimes. You know this is not how you feel when isn’t the case.
- The feelings you have right now aren’t true. Ask yourself if what you think is something you would’ve thought if things aren’t like this. Probably not. It’s out of anxiety. This connects to;
- Don’t make rash decisions out of frustration. Again, ask yourself if that’s something you would’ve done during normal times. No? Does your significant other make you laugh? Always supports you? Is your number one fan? Brings you so much happiness? Everyone’s frustrated. What’s the alternative?
- It is not your fault that you don’t get to see each other. It’s not your significant other’s either. There isn’t anything you can do at this point but choosing to love each other every day and remember that everything’s going to be worth it when you see each other. You’ll come out of this alive.